5 Tips on Turning a Negative into a Positive
By Dawn Fields
I thought this was fitting sense I just experienced a huge negative in my
life and choose to focus on the positive in the situation. For instance,
when I was unable to sign into this program to get to my list of
subscribers, I could have taken it in the real negative manner and given up.
But instead, I choose to see the positive. And, because I choose to see the
positive, I was able to think clearer and was able to enter into my
subscription base on another level. But, because of this negative
experience, I have decided to take it as a sign for me to move on to
something better, where I have more control over my newsletter.
So, I've decided to share 5 tips that will help you focus on the positive
in a negative situation.
Tip #1. Don't look for the negative when it isn't present. A lot of us
always enter a situation "looking" for the negative. Woman--this is for you.
Ever entered into a relationship with the belief that "all men are dogs?"
So, you half expect your partner/spouse to cheat on you because you have the
belief, that all men are dogs. Even though there is no evidence of him
cheating, you search his pockets for phone numbers, follow him in an
unmarked cars to see what he is doing when he claims to be out with "the
boyz."
Or, you might hear there is going to be lay-offs on your job. You
automatically believe that you are on the list of "pink slips." You spend
your day, watching your boss out the corner of your eye. S/he goes behind
closed doors and you are convinced they are plotting to get rid of you.
Or, you walk in a room of your "friends" and they stop talking. You
automatically assume they were talking about you, because why else would
they stop talking.
STOP! Don't look for the negative when it isn't a definite fact, because
when you seek the negative, you often find it more than not.
Tip #2. Look for the positive. No matter what the situation is, there is
always a negative and a positive side of it. Sometimes, the positive may not
be easy to see right off the bat, but if you look deep enough it is there.
Let's say, for instance, you are terminated from your job. At first
glance, there may not be anything positive you can see in this. But, was
this job the best job you've ever had. Was this job "your purposeful
career?" Most likely not. Because, generally, when you are working on a
career that supports your purpose, you will be so good at it, that you will
never be terminated.
So, since the job wasn't "the be all to end all" look on the positive
side. This is an opportunity for you to find your purpose, an opportunity to
make more money, a job closer to your home, a job that gets you excited.
Now, due to your termination from that other job, you have your days free to
spend time focused on creating the best life of your life.
Tip #3. Stop negative thoughts in their tracks. Whenever you hear
yourself "thinking" a negative thought--STOP and replace it with a positive
thought. Instead of saying to yourself, "I'm no good at this." Stop yourself
and say, "I am getting better, each and every day."
Tip #4. Change the company you keep. If you find that most of your
friends are negative people, find new friends. Birds of a feather flock
together. So, if, right now, you are a negative person, chances are most of
your friends will be negative too. If you find most of your conversations
are gossiping about others, kicking other people's back's in, looking and
discussing the negative about every subject, not sharing in the happiness
and good fortune of others, then change your friends.
Have you ever noticed that when you hear of someone that you know who is
doing good, you automatically look for the negative? "Girl, did you hear
that so-and-so just bought a million dollar home out there in Short Hills?"
"Oh, yeah, what does her husband do? He's probably a drug dealer or
something?" Or if you hear that so-and-so got a promotion and is now making
$350,000 a year. The first thing you say is, "I know she slept her way to
the top. She was as dumb as a box of rocks when we were in school." Then,
you are a negative person and need to find new friends. Because if you and
your friends are positive people, these thoughts would never come up in your
conversations.
Tip #5. Pray. Pray to God to remove the negative thinking from your life.
Pray that you always see the positive in every situation. Pray that you
become more positive each and every day. Then, thank God, in advance, for
taking away your negative thinking. Thank Him for the positive that is
entering into your life. Thank God for the flow of posiitive things that is
happening for you. Thank God for the goodness and positive things that
happen to others as well.
Now, make the decision to be a positive person and work at it each and
every day, until it becomes so much of a habit, that you won't even have to
think about it again.
Dawn Fields is a motivational speaker, author and life coach who teaches
about discovering your life's purpose and turning it into a lucrative career
or business. Visit the web site at
http://www.dawnfields.com
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