Start Living Your Dreams Today With a Positive Attitude
By Greg Vanden
Berge
“Those people who think they can do something and those who think they
can’t are both right.” - Henry Ford
What ever the mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve.
Here are the basic principles and steppingstones to change your life.
The starting point to all success is having a positive attitude.
Your attitude is going to play a large part in becoming successful in
whatever you wish to achieve. It's the passion in your life that is
necessary to achieve your dreams.
When you're at work and someone else gets a promotion that you felt like
you deserved or somebody gets a new car are you happy for them or does it
make you jealous? How often do you wish harmful thoughts to people around
you? Do you lust for and covet the material possessions of others? These are
signs of a negative personality and require extreme change.
“If we keep doing what we're doing, we're going to keep getting what
we're getting”. - Stephen Covey
Mary is very lonely and often spends most of her time at home alone.
Friends and family suggest that she should get out more often to meet other
people. Mary feels this is useless. I have tried to meet new people. No one
really could like me. People are all mean and want something from me.
These thoughts have the power to control your environment and your
emotions. Thinking negative thoughts about certain situation will change the
way we look at certain things. Soon you will see that if you can change the
way you look at certain things (in a negative way) the things around you
will soon change into a positive way.
There may be mean and selfish people in our world. There may even be
people who dislike you and don’t ever want to get to know you. Not every
body will fit that description. By assuming that everyone doesn't like you,
you are building a wall that often prevent you from having what we crave the
most out of life” Love and Affection”. We all need to be cared for and
wanted.
“Happiness can be defined in part at least, as the fruit of the desire
and the ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually” -
Stephen Covey
Let's say for example someone gets a promotion at your work and instead
of looking at it negatively, like they got the promotion that you deserved.
You should look at the situation with a positive outlook. It's all about how
you choose to let these events effect you.
1) There could be good reason why you didn't get the promotion.
2) Working as a team at my company may be the choice they made benefits
the Company and therefore benefits me.
3) There could be a better position opening later.
4) I wanted this job very much, but it went to someone with more
experience.
5) This doesn’t mean I'm not a good employee.
“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure,
to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer
meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in
movement there is life, and in change there is power”.- Alan Cohen
Let's take a situation that seems to happen to most people. While at work
you're walking through the hallways and you look into the office and see
Paul standing there. You proceed to say ‘Hi Paul how is it going’. He looks
at you as if he has never met you. You met Paul at the company picnic about
three months ago. You sat next to him and talked about his favorite football
teams for a couple of hours.
You could react in two ways to this situation:
Your negative reaction would be to think what kind of an arrogant jerk is
this guy. Who does this guy think he is? Wow I go out of my way to say hi to
this guy and he acts like he's never seen me before.
You're positive reaction would be to think “Humm I wonder if he might
have forgotten my name”. Maybe he just got a call from someone with some bad
news. Paul could be in a stressful environment and therefore not thinking
clearly.
Feel free to assume but often there is a reason for someone’s negative
behaviors that will explain their actions. I’m not saying this is acceptable
behavior. People's reactions often are the product of your reaction to them
if you look at Paul and say.
“What a Jerk here I am trying to be nice to him and he acts like he
doesn't even know me”. Paul's: reaction will be something like “Who the Heck
does that person think he is talking to me like that”. And the conversation
will continue to get hostile. NOT GOOD
If your reaction is a positive reaction to the conversation an goes
like:” Hi Paul and he looks like he is never seen you before and he reacts
with a negative attitude. You then reply with ‘Hi Paul it's me Jerry
remember from the picnic’ said enthusiastically. Most people will reply to
this with a positive response. Now let's say that they reply with a negative
response. It's up to you to continue the conversation or politely disengage
by saying something positive like ‘I’m sorry Paul my name is Jerry we sat
together at the picnic and talked about Football, do you remember. If he
remembers that could start a positive conversation If not then excuse
yourself politely and walk away.
You will soon see a positive change in negative thinking personalities if
you persist with a positive attitude and continue to be kind and caring to
them. Most of these people live in a protective shell of doubt and anxiety
but by chipping away constantly with kindness this shell can be lowered or
removed. Try it tomorrow with someone you have problems with.
Whatever you think just happened try not to have a negative opinion.
Think Positive .
“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings, by
changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of
their lives.” - William James
A positive mental attitude has a definiteness of purpose.
We translate into reality the thoughts that appear in our minds if they
are good thoughts that is what our lives will become if they are negative
thoughts that is what our minds will see.
There is something you can give away all the time and it doesn't cost any
money. You can give this away every day and never run out of them. Most
people don't realize they have an endless supply of them. “Smiles” Start
Giving Them Away.
Try a little experiment on the people around you. Start smiling at people
you see during the day. Make note of their reactions while smiling at them.
You will find that most people smile back and might even say hello. The next
day continue the experiment by saying “Hello” with a smile.
I have went through most of my life with a smile on my face as a matter
of fact when I was in the eighth grade my metal shop teacher made up a
nickname for me and Started calling me ‘Smiley’. Soon most of the other kids
in the class started to call me Smiley. They said it in a negative way as if
they were making fun of me. I took the named Smiley in the only way I knew
how to in a positive way. My metal shop teacher probably never realized the
impact that the named Smiley would have on my life and the lives of others.
“Be nice to people on your way up because you'll meet them on your way
down”. - Jimmy Durante
A positive mental attitude is associated with:
Unconditional love, joy, happiness, courage, strength, helpfulness,
compassion, freedom, mercy, forgiveness, diplomacy, tact, poise, purity,
perfection, self-discipline, morality, hope, life, spiritual bliss,
humility, wisdom, understanding, knowledge, intelligence, divine love,
beauty, harmony and creativity.
A destructive negative attitude is associated with;
Anger, fear, hate, resentment, bitterness, selfishness, depression,
sadness, pride, sulking, Stupidity, narrow-minds, ignorance, negligence,
discord, self-pity, lack of self-control, immorality, discouragement,
loneliness, vanity, perversions, evil, injustice, intolerance, hardness of
heart, cruelty.
I’m sure you can add to the list with many more. Try to keep a positive
mental attitude an soon you notice a negative change in your attitude or of
those around you. When you start to see negativity around you visualize
something positive or funny. As time goes on you will form anchors in your
mind to break up the negative attitudes from those around you
I often use humor in an uncomfortable environment to break any tension
that is developing among the people I am around. I will tell a joke, poke
fun at something they said, make up a quick story or change the
conversation. This might upset a few but for the most part it takes the wind
out of the person creating the negativity.
Remember this quote “Things always seem to turn out best for those people
who can make the best out of the way things turn out”.
Greg Vanden Berge has been involved in personal success for over 35
years. He has educated himself through everything you can think of almost :)
He has written a top selling book
http://startlivingyourdreamstoday.com and is currently working on
creative ways to educate people on how to become suceesful in business.
http://100moneymakers.com
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