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Self-contentment Leads to Confidence
By Lisa Martin
Being self-content means accepting and acknowledging who you are at your
core and becoming satisfied -- maybe not perfect, but satisfied -- in all
areas of your life. When you learn to better understand, better appreciate
and eventually love yourself, you exude a quiet confidence that will open
doors to what you want in life.
One way to develop a strong sense of self-contentment is to give yourself
the gift of self-appreciation. Offer yourself the same respect and kindness
you give to others you care deeply for. In doing so, you will feel more at
peace with yourself, be strong in your convictions and easily stand up for
yourself. Here are three ways to support you in becoming more confident.
1. Silence Your Inner Critic
Many women have a tendency to focus on what is "wrong" about themselves
rather than what is "right." We tend to pick out and pick on the parts of
ourselves we like the least. This disapproving inner critic (that little
voice inside our head that points our faults and undermines our
achievements) needs to be silenced. Instead of focusing on what you don't
like about yourself, do your best to acknowledge and appreciate what makes
you unique. Your smile. Your sense of humor. Your eyes. Now go further. What
qualities define you as a person? Resist the temptation to criticize
yourself. This is a learned behavior and it can be unlearned with
intentional action.
2. Surround Yourself with Positive Environments
In order to remain confident or regain confidence, you have to ensure that
you surround yourself with positive environments – emotionally and
physically. This means cultivating friendships that enrich your life. A
well-meaning friend that consistently points out your faults may be
undermining your sense of self. Seek out people who care about you and can
list all your lovely qualities instead. Fill your personal space with
objects that inspire you, such as pictures of loved ones, keepsakes and
favorite books.
3. Acknowledge Your Achievements
Like most women, you may have been brought up not to be boastful. However,
there is a distinction between bragging and not recognizing your
accomplishments and contributions. We have all achieved things in our lives,
both big and small, personally and professionally. But oftentimes, we cross
that achievement off our "to-do" list and quickly move to the next item,
with little or no celebration. When you give yourself permission to feel
positive about your accomplishments and refuse to listen to your inner
critic, you will feel pleased within yourself. You will proudly share your
wins, rather than apologize for them. You might even amaze yourself when
triumphal works such as "I am one awesome lawyer," "I am the best mother
ever," or "I rock" roll off your tongue with hardly at thought.
Watch out universe, here you come!
Lisa Martin, PCC (Professional Certified Coach), is the author of
Briefcase Moms: 10 Proven Practices to Balance Working Mothers’ Lives.
She lives what she writes and talks about. A working mother with 20 years of
corporate and entrepreneurial experience, she is the founder and president
of Briefcase Moms, an international coaching and personal development
company with a mission to “make it easier for you to live a balanced and
successful life.” She helps female professionals, executives and
entrepreneurs have an amazing career, family and life. Subscribe to her free
newsletter at:
http://www.briefcasemoms.com
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