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The Importance of Developing Self Confidence
By Robert Kokoska
Ideally, self confidence is something you develop early and maintain
throughout life. For many of us, though, that just isn't the case - either
the process of developing self confidence is stymied early on, or we lose
confidence because of life events. Nowadays, it is relatively rare to meet
someone who is entirely satisfied with his or her self confidence.
Interestingly, this can also be true of people who might seem (to the casual
observer) to exude confidence - in fact, they can even appear brash or
over-confident. Sometimes, this is just a front for the lack of confidence
that individual is hiding.
Developing self confidence is important, because a lack of confidence can
really hold you back. First of all, it can manifest in a great variety of
ways. Many people with poor self confidence stay in unsatisfying careers
because they don't believe in themselves enough to think that they can do
better. Of course, this leads to a self-perpetuating problem - if you aren't
happy with what you're doing, you are unlikely to be working to your full
capacity. Then, less than stellar results from your work efforts reinforce
the idea that you are a mediocre or poor worker. Your self confidence
naturally suffers as a result. All of us deserve to know what it's like to
work at something we truly love.
Another frequent result of poor self confidence is addiction or other
self-destructive behaviors, such as eating disorders. Most eating disorders,
such as anorexia or bulimia, result from a feeling that you are inadequate
and that you need to be perfect in order to accept yourself. As a result,
some young women (who are particularly susceptible to this type of problem)
have literally starved themselves to death. Developing self confidence early
on is probably the best defense against developing addictions or eating
disorders later on.
Finally, if you have poor self confidence, you are unlikely to be enjoying
fulfilling relationships with friends, partners or family. One thing that
may happen is that you project your negative self-worth onto someone else,
often a child. You might also be willing to put up with abusive behavior if
your self confidence is poor. All in all, developing self confidence is a
way to avoid a whole range of debilitating problems.
Do you want the confidence to do everything you desire?
Learn to live your life with
Unstoppable Confidence
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