Confidence, Motivation, and Self esteem - Causes and Cures
By Pamela Joy
When you learn how to empower and motivate yourself, you take back
control of your own emotions and your life! You don’t need pompoms and the
false hype! Most people just need a little help in learning how to take a
step back in order to see things from a different and more constructive
perspective. Once you do, the natural byproduct is confidence, higher self
esteem, strength and a strong inner knowing that you are in control of your
own life!
Fleeting Motivation - The problem with “cheerleaders” and “motivators” is
that they build up your confidence and motivation through manipulating your
emotions. But, emotions are temporary and often fleeting. Once you hang up
the phone, or the seminar is over, you’re then left with you own feelings of
doubt and insecurity which begin creeping back to the surface. And, with no
clear understanding of what’s causing those feelings and more importantly
HOW you can change them yourself, you’re quickly right back where you
started until you get the next temporary “fix” of inspiration or motivation.
The Root Cause - It’s not always easy to see yourself from an objective
point of view. And it sometimes takes an outside person who’s not
emotionally involved in the situation to help you see what’s really going
on. The only way to change the results is to change what’s causing those
results. Yeah, I know that sounds easy enough, but what if you honestly
don’t know what’s causing the results? And, what if you have NO idea where
to start, or how to even begin?
Weaknesses or Strengths - Everyone has certain things about themselves
that they were taught to see as weaknesses, things that were not acceptable
and need to be changed. What if you found a way of seeing those very things
as not only acceptable, but as strengths instead of weaknesses? How might
that change not only the way you see yourself, but also how you felt about
yourself? In other words, this IS the cause (or lack thereof) of self
esteem! You see, the truth is, every single “weakness” is really a strength
in disguise!
A New Perspective - Every coin has two sides and the picture you see on
it is determined by what angle you’re viewing it from. In other words,
there’s more than one way to see the same thing. For example, someone who
has been told from childhood that they talk too much and need to learn how
to curb that part of their personality, could grow up to become a powerful
public speaker. Someone who was taught to stop “tinkering” with things and
taking them apart could grow up to become a famous inventor!
Empower Yourself - When you can start seeing ALL of you as being
important and when you can learn how to utilize those “weaknesses” in a
constructive way, you then start building yourself up instead of constantly
tearing yourself down! But sometimes it takes another objective perspective
to help you see it that way. Once you do start seeing yourself in this way,
you truly begin to empower yourself. You no longer need anyone else to
motivate you because you are truly motivated by your own strength and power!
When you learn how to empower and motivate yourself, you take back
control of your own emotions and your life! You don’t need pompoms and false
hype! Most people just need a little help in learning how to take a step
back in order to see things from a different and more constructive
perspective. Once you do that, the natural byproduct is confidence, higher
self esteem, strength and a strong inner knowing that you are in control of
your life!
Pamela M. Joy, Life Coach and Metaphysical Consultant - Life Coaching
from a metaphysical perspective! Copyright 2006 Pamela M. Joy All rights
reserved. 434-263-4024
http://www.kre8ivelady.com
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